The Power of True Friendship

For a long time, I feared the opinions of others when it came to pursuing what I felt God was calling me into. Friends would often say “I don’t think you are called to this.” I’m not suggesting any of this was intended for my bad, however it did become quite detrimental.

We have a tendency as people to look at what we see in the flesh and then proceed to talk others out of their dreams. We mask this with a pure motive of protection, when all we’re doing is projecting our views from within our inner fear; we’re stuck in our own self-doubt!

So how do we become a believer who champions other people’s visions, promotes the dreams of others and believes in them?

Let’s look at an example of a man of God who didn’t believe in what God had called him to and discover what he achieved by having a community of believers around him.

Now, when I say believers, I am not talking about faith-filled belief, but instead I am talking about personal believers in the dreams of others.

Many of us never get to experience people’s faith in us, but why is that? It could be said that maybe we are reaping what we have sown. I speak for myself when I say this. Up until very recently, I would see another’s success and would mostly feel jealousy, frustration and envy, instead of celebration, promotion and belief.

 I’ve been working hard to change this about myself and for great reason. As I’ve begun to champion the dreams of others, I’ve found my own dreams have actually come to pass.

 Let’s take a look at Jehu.

 2 Kings 9:1-3

Then Elisha the prophet called one of the sons of the prophets and said to him, “Tie up your garments, and take this flask of oil in your hand, and go to Ramoth-Gilead. And when you arrive, look there for Jehu, the son of Jehoshaphat, son of Nimshi. And go in and have him rise from among his fellows, and lead him to an inner chamber. Then take the flask of oil and pour it on his head and say, ‘Thus says the Lord, I anoint you king over Israel.’ Then open the door and flee; do not linger.”

 Jehu received a word in secret; one that made little sense. The word seemed to be one of rebellion, as Jehu served King Ahab as both a commander and a servant. Yet here he was in a position of calling, anointed in secret to become the next king of Israel. If I were in Jehu’s position, I would have been feeling pretty nervous about stepping into this.

2 Kings 9:11

When Jehu came out to the servants of his master, they said to him, “Is all well? Why did this mad fellow come to you?” And he said to them, “You know the fellow and his talk.”

When he came out from this inner room, dripping with oil, as his men approached him, he was instantly faced with an opportunity to share the prophecy or word placed before him. How many of us have received a prophecy and when sharing our excitement with friends have had to face a comment like, “yeah but are they really a prophet?” Or “I heard that person was wrong about this or that?” Or even perhaps, “that person is a mad man.”

I am not sure why, but maybe it was to save him from embarrassment or that his friend led him to this next statement, but Jehu tossed the word by the wayside and said , “You know the fellow and his talk,” instantly shutting the word down in his heart. This can be so detrimental. I want to be a person that when faced with someone’s word I celebrate and dream with them. Currently, in our Australian society, we suffer from a disease called tall poppy syndrome and it’s killing revival in our nation. Lucky for Jehu his friends decided to dig deeper, and so should we. It just shows how careful we need to be with our language when dealing with the hearts of others.

 2 Kings 9:12

And they said, “That is not true; tell us now.” And he said, “Thus and so he spoke to me, saying, ‘Thus says the Lord, I anoint you king over Israel.’”

Imagine with me for a second; you have a call and a gift on your life that you may have hidden under a bushel in fear of the response from friends, family or even pastors. But what would it look like for you if you had someone that stood along side you? Walked with you and called you up to your giftings? I hear all too often from Christians that someone else is more gifted than they are or that they’re not called to certain things. If this is you, know that the truth is in you, stop hiding it from the world. In secret, you hope that you’re of some worth to the kingdom and the good news is that you are. You just need to believe it.

2 Kings 9:13

Then in haste, every man of them took his garment and put it under him on the bare steps, and they blew the trumpet and proclaimed, “Jehu is king.”

Jehu’s friends declared the word as truth over his life, and then he achieved what the God had called him to do. They shared in his glory and his victory was their victory. I encourage you to abandon competition, strife and gift stifling behaviour and think big picture for the kingdom.

So back to the original question, how do we become a believer in people? We choose to lay down our desire to be special and see what is in each other, we look to the reality that my Christian brother’s success is my Father’s success.

We love.

5 thoughts on “The Power of True Friendship

  1. Adam, your last two words say it all- we love. We cannot begin to do this until we allow ourselves to receive His love, His grace, His call. Beautiful post, and one I think that reflects those whom this holiday honors and remembers.

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